Drama

Yesterday, while we were trying to put the kids to sleep, there were so much drama. They both were drinking milk from the bottle. Lucas wanted Chloe's pillow. Chloe refused to give. Lucas smacked her. We pulled Lucas away as he was getting physical. Then Lucas cried. After coaxing, they both apology to each other and Chloe is willing to share the pillow with her brother. Lucas had this habit of wanting everyone elses pillow except his. Most of the time, he has 4 pillows on his bed - 2 his own, one borrowed from Daddy and one borrowed from Chloe.

Then there was a mosquito flying around. Dominic then said:
Dom: Chloe, ask ko-ko to smack the mosquito.
Chloe: Kok-ko, smack the mosquito.
Lucas: NO.
Chloe: If you don't smack the mosquito, then who? ME?

Doesn't Chloe sounds like an adult? I was wondering if I speak in this manner and that's how she picks it up!

Then the next drama unfolds, they were fighting for the same blanket.
Lucas: Give me the purple blanket.
Chloe: NO. You want the yellow blanket?
Lucas: NO. I want the purple blanket.
Chloe: No, but I give you the yellow blanket ok.
Lucas: NO, I want the purple blanket.
Chloe: You had the purple blanket yesterday.
Lucas: (whining and complained to me) Mom, she is not sharing.
Me: Chloe, can ko-ko have the blanket for another night?
Chloe: No, but ko-ko can have the yellow blanket ok.

See the difference in their character. Lucas tends to whine and complain to me when at home and complain to his teacher when at school. He gets frustrated easily. Meanwhile, Chloe is very calm and will try to negotiate her way around. We always think Lucas will excel in his academic and Chloe is the street smart one.

Is it Normal?

Last month, there was parents teachers meeting and I went to see Lucas's class teacher. These are some of the observations she made:
- he doesn't participate in activities like singing and dancing. He is watching and know what's going on, but just don't participate. His expression is like 'why are you asking me to do all these silly things!'
- He is very gentle, never throw any temper. Only once, I caught him asking his friend 'Can you just shut up!' when his friends was singing too near his ears. He already gave his friend the warming when he covered both his ears with his hands.
- He does participate in other activities. He puts up his hand to answer questions and walks up to talk.
- When he was standing in front of his classmates, and did not get the answer right, he feels a bit shy and curve his lips. But it is not a problem because he usually gets it right.

What does that tell you??
He is going to be a book worm and a 'kaki bangku' (not sporty type)?

Today, I had a meeting with his Music teacher and ICT teacher. This is what his Music teacher said. 'I am concerned for him. He does not join his friends no matter how much fun they are having. When I asked him to join, he will just give a smile. But he is listening and observing every thing. One day, I passed by his class and saw him standing at the corner while his friends were riding bicycles. I asked him why and he said 'they are cycling too fast. I need to protect myself. They might hit me'. He is very smart and he thinks differently'

I am concerned too now. Is this just him and normal for children his age?

The ICT teacher observation was rather vague. I think she doesn't know exactly which is Lucas. She said 'He need a lot of assistance to do his work to navigate the mouse.' I know this is not true at all. Lucas can start Internet Explorer, go to Favourites and click on his 'Playhouse Disney' and plays all the games and activities. He can even print the pictures till the printer ink cartridges ran out of ink. He is expert in playing computer games and has no problem navigating the mouse.

Should I get him assessed by a specialist to see if his behaviour is normal? Or just let it be?

Testing My Patience

As Lucas is growing up and understand more things, he is also testing my patience. With my hormones change, sometimes this is not working well. Two nights ago, I was trying to dress him after his bath, he insisted that he wanted to go out to see his water bottle. I was trying to finish dressing him up so that I can tuck him in his bed. I told him 'Your bottle is going to say shame shame, you are naked.' Guess what was his reply..................
'Bottle cannot talk. Bottle has no mouth.' I was flabbergasted. From now on, I cannot tell him the kiddy excuses anymore.

For the past 2 days also, he has been waking up in the middle of the night crying and then ask 'milk and water please'. Wasn't sure if he was having a nightmare or what. I tried to pat him back to sleep but it got worse. He will start kicking his legs. This morning at 5am, I lost my temper and scolded him.
Me: Why are you crying when you wake up?
Lucas: (cry louder and start kicking)
Me: If you want to cry, go outside and cry. Mummy wants to sleep.
Lucas: (cry louder and continue kicking)
Me: Stop it!
Lucas: (cry louder and continue kicking)
Me: (ignore him)
Lucas: (after 1-2 mins) Running eyes (i.e. his tears are rolling down his cheek).
Me: Take a tissue and wipe it.
Lucas: Mummy wipe.
Me: Mummy didn't ask you to cry. Wipe your own tears.
Lucas: Mummy wipe. (and I did). Milk and water please?
Me: No, it is too early.
Lucas: Milk and water please.
Me: No.
Lucas: Water only.
Me: (I gave in)

This is what's happening at an ungodly hour.